Have you heard the famous saying- “Grass is greener on the other side of the fence”? We constantly compare ourselves with everyone around us, trying to improve ourselves. There is always something better that we’re missing. You always think other people have it better and the irony is the people on the other side of the fence are thinking your grass is greener!
But in reality grass isn’t always greener on the other side of the fence. We are constantly in a rat race with the world. We keep comparing ourselves with what others have, and feel sorry for ourselves. We are unstable, insecure and unsatisfied with our present conditions, instead the feeling is there is more and better elsewhere, and anything less than the ideal won’t do. We are constantly losing our individuality, trying to shape ourselves to suit others. We want what we don’t have, and there is a fantasy that we’ll have what we don’t currently have and we don’t even have to sacrifice any part of us in the process. We always want what we don’t have, jumping off the fence many times to find what we want, and yet never being fully satisfied with what we find. We keep polishing our outer selves to calm our unsatisfied inner personalities.
It is time we change the trite expression to this: the grass is greener where you water it. Shiny evergreen grass is illusionary. But, we have to keep nurturing our grass to keep it as green as possible.
It is time we start recognizing our talents, our capabilities. We need to realize that no one is perfect. Everyone has their flaws. Be real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird and beautiful. Remember who you are before you started molding yourself into who the world wanted you to be. You have to listen to the sound of your own breathing and honor the truth inside you.
‘To be human is to be broken and broken is its own kind of beautiful.’
We need to go beyond the abstracts of idealism and perfection. We have to realize our strengths and increase our connection to the reality. We need to stop obsessing upon what the others have and we don’t. Clean our mind of doubt, envy, and insecurity.
Instead of being concerned about your neighbor’s garden, you should concentrate on maintaining your own. Water it, fertilize it and periodically remove the unwanted weeds that may harm the growth of your plants.
You think it is you against the whole world, but it is actually you against yourself. Compare with none, but yourself only.